Have you ever used the word as a barrier between your dreams and your daily life? I definitely have, just yesterday I caught myself saying it to a friend, ‘but it wouldn’t be REALISTIC to come home after work and find the time to do it in between everything else’. When I think about it and look back, I have actually used the word a lot and (as with my example here) it often brings other limiting words into my thoughts, such as ‘but’ and ‘find the time’ and also usually the word ‘can’t’. These words regularly try to sprout into our dreams and fed by a fear of the unknown they can quickly grow into huge hurdles, but just like a flower bed you have the power to pull the weeds out, even if you have to do it one stem at a time.
Dismantling the real
Imagine that the word is lying on the floor at your feet and that you can pick it up (it feels heavy doesn’t it?) and dismantle it, like Lego. The first bit to come away into your hand is ‘real’, then ‘i’ and lastly ‘stic’. Now, put the pieces back onto the floor slightly apart from each other and stand back to admire the new statement: ‘real I stick’. The word has lost its power and instead becomes a belief that the real you has the power to decide where you stick your dreams.
Change non-realistic into possibility
I recently went to a talk by Felicity Aston on her book Call of the White, about her inspirational journey to the South Pole with a team of women from various countries in the Commonwealth. What struck me most about her was not just her enthusiasm about the challenge she had faced and the belief she placed in the people she wanted to achieve this huge goal with, but also her feelings of fear that she felt at the start. During this time of doubt, when she faced her highest hurdle, she found some powerful words from the polar explorer Robert Swan regarding his earthy polar ambitions:
‘it seemed to me important to rekindle interest […] in our planet and to show by example that high adventure was still at hand, that quite ordinary people without advanced skills can realise the most astonishing and ambitious of goals if they set their minds to it.’
Let the real you stick, Zellie